CHILL; WE'RE JUST "DATING"...
Hello everyone! This is the FIRST blog entry that I decided to do came from a conversation I recently had with a friend of mine. He feels that there is no point in "dating" someone if you know that you aren't going to marry them or you dont see them as "marriage" material. I feel like this, if I go as far as making you my boyfriend, then obviously I see some potential in you, lol. Im not going to say that I'm looking at you as my HUSBAND already, but making you my boyfriend was a BIG step for me to begin with. When I get into relationships, im in the for the long run and I only hope that they last, but as we have all experienced, SHYT happens, people change, emotions change and all other types of stuff. So my queation to you is, how do you approach relationships? Do you feel that dating is pointless, unless your going to marry that person....SAY WHAT'S REAL!
-BLkCHiiNADoLL
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This is not your "average" blog. I do not wish to talk about what all the CELEBRITIES are doing and wearing (though I do love those blogs), but I would like to discuss some "everyday" issues and things you discuss with your friends, as well as controversial ones. There will be funny ones, serious ones and anything else you could think of. All I ask is that you SAY WHAT's REAL!
I have heard this before {from people who were older than me} and I think I disagree. I mean,I agree that it makes sense. If you are dating someone for a significant amount of time, then the next step would be marriage {or at least thats what everyone assumes}. When you look at it like that then it makes sense that the person you are dating be marriage material. On the other hand, sometimes you just want to have fun. Live a little and experience things. After going thru the "talking" phase, you may realize that you like this person enough to be in a monogamous, committed, relationship with them. Even though you know that, you may not know enough about them as a person to say that he/she is marriage material. I think this is the whole point of dating. To weed out the bad ones until you find Mr. or Mrs. right. How else would you find out who's a keeper if you dont date them? Talking to someone and being in a relationship are two different things and I feel that in order to REALLY get to know someone, you have to get that title to "see" them and then determine if they are worth you continuing to be with.
ReplyDelete~*~Ms.SaDDitY~*~
DATING IS MUCH NEEDED: it is a necessary stepping stone in the process of any relationship! For it allows you to see the many sides of a person...grants access to details that aren't obvious otherwise. While everyone would LOVE to find "the one" the first go around...in REALITY its not always the case and dating assists in the process. So I think the BIGGER QUESTION is: Why in the hell do we continue to date even after we discover the face behind the facade and know for a fact that they aren't marriage material? I mean you CANT change who they are yet find it easy to make excuses for being with them...when its OBVIOUS the relationship "AINT going NOWHERE"...funny...but its easy to get sucked in!
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Congrats on the blog for starters! But yeah, I've actually had this same conversation a few times before. And I 100% agree with the friend of yours. Yes, I do agree with the other posters that dating is the "stepping stone" and entry to marriage and longevity. However, why even begin a relationship with someone who you know will not potentially be your everything. The idea of "dating" or being on a date is highly misconceived in today's use of the word. Dating is merely an investment of time shared with someone else. So whether its with friends at a movie or with a significant other at dinner, dating is just the amount of time you spend with a person. Now hopefully the time spent with a person you are diggin is more valuable than time spent otherwise. Now, we all have characteristics that we find attractive about those who we choose to befriend or involve ourselves in. For example, if you don't like people who are stuck up or arrogant, most likely a person like this wouldn't be your friend for long or maybe ever. You wouldn't invest the time to get to know them. The same is with a relationship. If I cannot see myself being with you for years and years to come, why waste both of our time "dating" when nothing is to come of it. I hate proofreading so I'm sure there are errors..lol. IM OUT tho!
ReplyDelete-Fly Society C.
Ok ima start this a lil different...By answering a question with a question...What is dating anyway?! Well I guess its different for everyone, but for me dating is too much. I mean if i start talking to someone that means im looking for a relationship and I will let that person know that off top. Talking leads to spending time and we wont get to that if you cant hold a good conversation. Spending my time with you is major for me because i dont want it to be for nothing. So dating is just a waste of time where i could be getting money! hehe... I do go into a relationship wanting it to last forever. We all know some dont last, but thats why we start over with someone new. So to finish this up, dating for me is a waste of time, im not going to waste our time if I know off top I cant see myself with you forever or what we want to be forever...
ReplyDeleteD* Dukes
Everyone has their own beliefs and reasons behind dating. So if he feels that way I think its perfectly normal, Everybody dont have standards like that & some ppl just casually date for several different reasons. I think his whole outlook is based off of maturity! & Thats whats real.
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