Sunday, September 13, 2009
*It's A THiN LiNe BeTwEEN LOVE 'n HATE*
Im sitting here watching the VMA preshow and it is def the reason for this blog, not to mention everyday life situations....*sigh* Now, when I saw the quick shot of BEyoncE, I said to myself, "I AM SOOO HAtING" lol..but its a Good kind of hate, because I LOVE BEYONCE! She's the closest thing to a perfect womAn in my eyes..such a beautiful individual. On the flip side of this, there are SEVERAL peoplE, believe it or not, that actually HATE on BEyonce (AND people who aren't famous) in the "bad way" even when that person has NOTHING wrong with them. I've heard and watched people down talk other people simply because they CAN'T BE THEM, in my opinion, or they don't have what that other person has.. hmm...My question to u guys is, where do you draw the line? How do you distinguish between a HATER and someone who is jus being real? I thought if what that person was saying about the other person was true then yea, they are jus being real, but most of the time its matter of opinion so who's to say if the person being "hated" on is actually ugly, or can't dress, etc. OR if the one speaking is needing that title; HATER!! I want to hear from you guys..fill me in..SAY WHAT'S REAL!
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ReplyDeleteThe only way to distinguish whether a person is telling you the truth about yourself or just jealous or envious, we have to ask this question when they comment - why does he/she say this? What motivated them to say this? is it love, is it good advice? or is the person trying to destroy me or hurt me, or hate on me? We really have to look into the heart of a person, and motivation and most of us cant do that because we don't have clean enough hearts and motivations ourselves. The more you cleanse yourself of that type of heart and mind, the more clearly you can see into someone else. I also had a friend tell me this "Beauty is not in the eye of the beholder, it is in the one who sees through the eyes of God" so my question to you is, and you dont have to answer to me..what is it that makes Beyonce beautiful? And also, what makes a person beautiful in general? what is beauty???
ReplyDeleteI think this is a very interesting question that you have asked tonight and I was actually thinking about this the other day. Anyone who knows me knows that I am a DIEHARD Beyonce fan due to her talent and her beauty inside and out {after all this time, money, awards, fame, and fortune she is still very humble and greatful} so I am definitely going to say that anyone who says something negative about her is a HATER!!! However, when you ask about other people in general, I think it can be difficult to say. I mean, to some people this individual may actually be ugly, or outfit may be wack, or whatever the case may be. Then to others, they may feel the opposite is true. I think it is really hard to say. Wow. Im really tryn to fine the words right now and personally, I think it is a matter of opinion. It actually bothers me when people say they have all these "haters" when I feel like they are making it up...lol At the end of the day, someone is ALWAYS going to have something negative to say about SOMEBODY, SOMEWHERE. Is it hating or just our opinions? Honestly, sometimes I think its a little but of both. Either way, its never gonna change and me being me, Im gonna continue to call it as I see it.... =)
ReplyDelete~*~Ms.SaDDitY~*~
Kewl topic. I agree with ~*~Ms.SaDDitY~*~ For the most part you have to check to see where the the negativity is coming from. Like you said, it could be coming from a good place, like you hating on Beyonce in a good way, or from a bad place of hating because of jealousy. To me, we only hate because of our own insecurities. We see something that we like about an individual and do not necessarily possess and begin to hate. So in retrospect, most hate comes from a good place of liking something about someone, but is carried out in a negative way. Most characteristics based on aesthetics ( dress and attractiveness) is a matter of opinion and preference. Remember, no one likes a hater. Just check yourself before yourself before you wreck yourself. Nobody's checking me tho boo.. lol.
ReplyDelete-Fresh Society C
Its simple you know when someone is hating when they're saying something out of spite! If you see a baad chick im pretty sure your going to say to urself oh ok, she baad (no homo) hehe, but if u have a hater standing nxt to you and they see the same thing they're going to say "man that bitch think she baad" Ummmm Clearly your the foolish person who is paying attention to her so because you werent the topic of that moment you decided you were going to hate!!! I figure people are going to say whats on their mind and we all have our own opinion, but being a hater is easy to see when you know your real!!
ReplyDeleteD.Dukes!
I find that the divide between a hater and an opinionated person starts right at the motive. There will always be a negative thing to say about someone - all can't be IDEAL! But I find, definitely, that the hater is trying to demote or defame the subject. Trying to take away from how aesthetically pleasing Beyonce is, is futile... But..yeahh.. Its the intention of the comment an opinion/critique should never be detrimental.. Its should have a solution. A tasteless remark is the polar opposite, and that will reveal the HATER.
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